We have all experienced anger to a certain degree. Anger is a human emotion and oftentimes it is misunderstood and considered taboo. “Anger is related to the “fight, flight, or freeze” response of the sympathetic nervous system; it prepares humans to fight.”
There are many stereotypes associated with anger that are both negative and positive. Anger can drive you to do amazing things.
You can achieve something that you didn’t think was possible or prove doubters wrong (i.e. I’ll show him). If you release anger the correct way, you can take flight.
Yet, if anger is not expressed in a healthy way you can shatter relationships. And if you aren’t careful, it can leave you stuck in the past, unable to break free.
Your anger is valid. It does not deserve to hide. When you suppress anger for too long and too often, one day your anger will spill out and cause harm.
At the moment, it feels good to rage at someone to release tension. But oftentimes we take out our anger on someone who doesn’t deserve our wrath! Prolonged lodged anger and stress can wreak havoc on our bodies!
Anger is neither a good thing or a bad thing, but it is how you use it. How does it fuel you to become better? Does your anger influence change? Is your productivity enhanced?
If your anger doesn’t create real healthy change, hang out with me for a bit. Whenever you feel anger, embrace it. Let it guide you to be the person you were born to be. Check out the tips below to learn how to release anger in a healthy way.
Don’t judge it
Do not judge yourself for being angry. Remember, we have been conditioned to believe that anger is a negative emotion. Only certain people were allowed to be angry in society.
Allow yourself to feel it. Look at it a different way. You wouldn’t want someone judging you, so don’t judge yourself.
Once you find that you are angry, confront what you are angry about. I know this is easier said than done. Oftentimes, we are angry at a certain thing but in turn, we are actually angry at something else! I find with myself, my anger has layers to it, once I got down to my core reasons, I was able to *confront it.
If you are angry at a person, then you must confront that person too.
Just because you confront anger doesn’t mean it will go away, now you must work through that anger
Accept what you can control and let go of what you can’t
Ask yourself this, can you control what caused you to be angry? You can control yourself, but you can’t control the world. It is tough not to be in control, but once you understand that you will be released from your burden and stress.
You can concentrate on what you allow yourself to feel, see, and think. If you have negative friends, you can’t make them positive, you can address them and remove them from your life if necessary.
Letting go can take a very long time, trust me. It took many years to understand this. Practice letting go the small things, one at a time, until you move on to the bigger things. Be gentle with yourself, this could be a lifelong process.
This is an important tip!
I recently attended my first mediation seminar! It was amazing and thorough even though it was online! I spent three hours learning the basics of mediation.
My teacher is a meditation teacher and she herself has dealt with anger. She discussed with us how we deal with anger stems from childhood and parenting. She also suggested that meditation can help you remove the anger from your life.
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Exercise to release aggression
There is nothing like releasing anger in a nice sweat session at the gym! Kickboxing or running is a healthy way to release aggression. Exercise makes you feel good and in the end, your hormones will thank you!
If you don’t have access to a gym, you can participate in home workouts. I also consider exercise such as shooting at the gun range or practicing yoga, karate, etc.
Put your anger into your craft.
If you are angry, put that energy into something creative. All humans are creative creatures, I don’t care if you identify with being an artist or not. The way we create varies differently from person to person.
If you aren’t painting or designing, maybe your craft is your business or fixing up your house. Who knows you could be the next Joanna Gaines.
Write, write, and write some more.
I love writing. Writing has been my great escape and my safe haven for a long time. It allows me to flesh out my deals and look at things in a logical and practical manner.
Typically, I write with a pencil and paper and then transfer to a computer. I find when I’m angry, the pen and paper help me relieve my frustration better. After I’m done, I read whatever I write and release it. Then I either burn it or keep it with me until I’m ready to let go.
Cry, scream, and yell in a safe place.
A few months ago, I wrote an article on Unwritten, expressing my vulnerability with crying.
I used to be ashamed of crying, but like anger, I realize crying is neither a good or bad thing. Doing so doesn’t make you weak. Crying is a form of release. You don’t have to cry in front of people, you can cry by yourself if you like.
Seek professional guidance
Mental health is widely talked about now and more and more people are opening to seeing a therapist. In my journey dealing with anger, I have sought professional health,
I have seen my life improve with their suggestions and help. If you aren’t into therapy, you can opt-in for life coaches, self-help courses/events, and spiritual teachers/healers.
Anger is not a negative emotion. You are entitled to it and allowed to experience the emotion in full.